the
likelihood its their arrival.
Plus, when you’re in too much of a rush to find someone, you forget
to enjoy being single! And ironically, the more satisfied you are with your
life, the more likely you are to attract someone who's ready to be in a
relationship.
As a result, you’ll be much better off focusing not on finding
love but on becoming someone worthy of love. Honestly, the majority of people I
know who are in happy relationships didn’t find love when they were looking for
it. They found it when they were exploring their own interests.
Because the whole idea of finding “your other half” is grossly
misleading. No well-adjusted, confident, capable person is really interested in
hooking up with half a person for the rest of their life. In a healthy
relationship, both people are whole on their own. That’s what makes them a
strong couple.
So don’t waste your energy trying to find someone else who can make
you feel whole. Only you can do that. And the truth is, you’re not ready for
love until you’ve reached a point where you believe you’ll be okay even if your
soul mate never comes along. And at that point, you’ll find someone who is just
right for you, someone who is also steady enough on his own two feet that he’s
capable of whisking you away.
It’s like that line in Cool Runnings where John Candy tells the
Jamaican bobsled team “If you’re not enough before the gold medal, you’ll never
be enough with it.”
It’s the same for love, no matter how true. Don’t get me wrong,
being loved is powerful. There’s no doubt about that. But it is not a cure-all.
It too has limitations.
And even though true love is what we all dream about and watch
movies about and pen ballads about, it is not the only version of love that matters.
On the contrary, no one you ever care about is ever truly lost to you, and
there is something to be learned from every relationship. So even if someone is
Mr. Right-Now instead of Mr. Right, you should still love them as best you can.
Because love is like energy. What you put out, you get back in
spades.
Chapter
17: Kate
I followed Kevin upstairs and to the end of the dark hallway. He
knocked on a closed door and then turned the knob. After he peeked his head inside
to make sure the room was empty, he flicked the light switches until he found a
dim overhead setting. Then he led me inside.
When I closed the door behind me, I saw that we were in the
master bedroom. The bed was big and the colors were neutral. Overall, it was
tastefully decorated. Almost too tastefully, like the way you’d want your house
to look if you were showing it to prospective buyers. If it weren’t for the laundry
basket full of unfolded towels at the end of the bed I might not have believed
it was lived in.
Kevin turned around and propped himself up against the door by
placing a hand just over my shoulder. His face was inches from mine.
“You really want to know why I came here tonight?” he asked.
“Sure.”
“I was jealous.”
“Jealous?”
“Of everyone at this party.”
I cocked my head.
“Because they were going to see you tonight, and I couldn’t
stand it.”
“Is that so?” I asked, wondering if he could hear my heart
beating against the door.
He nodded and pushed a stray wisp of hair out of my face.
I shrugged. “Well, now you see me.”
“I know,” he said, fixing his eyes on my mouth. “And it’s still
not enough.”
I wanted to say something clever and sexy, but before I could
think of anything, he tilted my chin up with his fingers and kissed me.
My head fell back against the door, but I pressed my hips
against him. Ripples of anticipation tore up my middle. As his tongue dipped in
my mouth, I felt him grow against me. It made me so excited that I turned him
on.
Immediately my thoughts jumped to how big he’d felt before and
how worried I was that I wouldn’t be able to handle him. Then I wondered if he
would even fit in my