Becoming A Slave by Jack Rinella Page A

interviews that helped shape this book prove that there is no consistent way for M/s relationships to be expressed. Is she looking for protocols between Gay leathermen, between professional Dominatrices and their clients, between elegant mistresses and their attendants, or between sadistic masters and their raunch slaves? Master/slave relationships, after al , come in al sizes, colors, and temperaments.

    Even if we examine only one of these modalities we find wide variations in the specifics. Are slaves supposed to walk in front of their masters, to their right or left, or behind? I can find examples of each practice among those who rightful y identify as master and slave. To label one way better than another is to venture into dangerous territory to be sure. What I can do is to lay down the general principles that appear in M/s relationships, while presenting examples that il ustrate, rather than directives that limit.

    For instance, my friend Master Vince has a style of domination quite different from mine. He once met a slave applicant on line and then in person. It seemed to both of them that there was no future between them as master and slave. At the same time, Vince suspected that my style would fit the applicant wel and arranged for us to correspond via email. Within the week the applicant was in my home and eventual y was col ared and under contract. One style does not fit al .

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    I want them done. For better or for worse, you can’t create as I have, since you are not me. Imitation may indeed be a compliment but healthy relationships are built on faithfulness to oneself, not to some idealized fantasy of how one thinks things should be.

    My approach in these pages is to clarify and explain, especial y by clearly defining and giving actual examples. My aim is to demythologize in order to make attainable a fulfil ing master/slave relationship. After al , if you can’t live it, it has little more purpose than to feed one’s libido.
    That’s the stuff of porn, not reality. My purpose is to guide you on your very personal path in finding a master, though I trust that masters will also find something of value in this book as wel .
    A Quick Note about My Writing Style

    Contrary to more popular usage I prefer to use standard American spel ing and rules of grammar and punctuation, avoiding (I hope) the more usual misuses of our language. Therefore you will notice that slaves’ names begin, as I think they should, with capital letters and that slaves are hes or shes, not its. My reasoning for this is simple: those who are committed to obey and serve us masters have accepted a high cal ing, one that I find most honorable and I honor them for doing so. Though many disagree with me (and they have every right to do so) I find the use of the lower case and of impersonal pronouns demeaning. I certainly does nothing to acknowledge the high value I place on what slaves are and what they do. Additional y, using non-standard usage makes a book more difficult to read.

    The only places I have been wil ing to deviate from standard usage is when the person has asked me to do so in reference to them.
    Therefore you wil , on occasion, find titles and names in a grammatical y incorrect style, but it is after al , their name not mine.

    Several of the readers who proofed the manuscript form of this book pointed out the confusion of similar terms that point to realities that have much in common yet remain vaguely apart. I admit to using terms interchangeably when, in fact, they refer to distinct but closely related groups. The interchange of D/s and M/s, of Leather, Lifestyle, and Subculture, and of groups, community, and communities are al just such examples. I do