Becoming A Slave by Jack Rinella

Introduction
    It takes as much energy to wish as it does to plan.26

    I found my first introduction to Master/slave (M/s)27 relationships in the pages of Mr. Benson , a novel by John Preston published in 1983.
    Like The Story of O (1954), Tarnsman of Gor (1967), and The Claiming of Sleeping Beauty (also 1983), fiction has long provided the erotic gist that feeds the imagination of would-be dominants and submissives alike.

    But I am neither a New York mil ionaire like Mr. Benson, a prince in an ancient country, a French maiden, nor a man transported across the solar system. So, like the rest of us, I have found ways to translate fiction into some kind of satisfactory reality -- one not crafted by writers or actors but by real men and women living in the here and now. I have had to find the master within, while searching for that special person who believes that he or she was not only born to serve, but born to serve me.

    This has been a twenty year journey, during which I have met hundreds of people either in cyberspace or real time: masters and their slaves, serious seekers and flakes, the curious and the experienced.
    I have attempted to enthral more than a hundred of them and have been successful, in the short term, with more than several. My more than nine years with my slave Patrick has proven the viability of my desires, as have the relationships of the masters, mistresses, and their slaves whom I have been privileged to know during these years.

    Experience shows that M/s relationships are first and foremost human relationships. No amount of domination or submission will change the fact that both masters and slaves are human. Intel ect, emotion, physical attributes, finances, mores, and morals are part and parcel of our relationships. For that reason, I find that I am too pragmatic for the dogmatists who seek easy, pre-packaged solutions for becoming a master or finding a slave. Let me be clear here: Creating a master/slave relationship is a very personal, completely human activity that wil always reflect the unique ideas, preferences, and agreements of the people in the relationship. There is no cookie-cutter recipe for becoming a slave except that you fol ow the desires of heart.

    An Amazon.com book reviewer once wrote that my work, The Master’s Manual , might have been written by any marriage counselor 26
    Eleanor Roosevelt, cited in Whatever It Takes by Bob Moawad, Compendium Publishing, Lynwood, WA, 2003.
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    As you read on, you will find that I use M/s and D/s somewhat interchangeably. In fact, both are dominant/submissive relationships. M/s more specifically indicates a master/
    slave relationship whereas D/s by in itself refers to any dominant/submissive relationship.
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    and that it was full of common sense suggestions that gave few specific ideas to someone who wanted to be in a dominant/submissive (D/s) relationship. As a friend once said, “Duh.” We are humans and relationships between humans wil always reflect our humanity.

    What is just as true is that even the kinky28 aspects of our relationships are seldom consistent and hardly ever universal. I cannot, therefore, give you ready-made presentations as to how you ought to fashion your slave future or, if you are dominant, your future slave. I can paint pictures of broad generalities and give examples of actual practices but the hard truth is that successful M/s relationships are tailored to the two (or more) people in them. Just as clothes come in many sizes, so too are there wide variations in the M/s continuum. From sadistic tyrant to elegant lady, from chattel farm hand to sissy maid, there is no one style that fits al and no one can easily catalogue al of them either.

    I recently read an on-line post from a writer seeking information about slave protocols, that is the “rules” by which slaves are to treat their masters and others. She wanted to interview master/slave couples about the correct protocols found in the lifestyle. The