create the illusion of being a mindreader or of having "secret" information about the slave.
A series of interviews should be conducted before any arrangement is made or contract signed, and at regular intervals thereafter. For an ongoing contract, once a month is reasonable. Both parties should be given ample opportunity to gain the necessary information to make an informed decision about the training. The results of these interviews should be kept in a file in a locked box, along with a copy of the contract and any personal documents relating to the slave. A contract should include a clause specifying whether this file will be turned over to the submissive in the event that the relationship ends, whether the dominant may keep a copy of some or all of the information, and to what extent such information may be shared with others (when negotiating to bring another dominant into the scene, for example).
It is appropriate for the dominant to request from experienced submissives a sort of resume of service previously provided or at least a list of references. Likewise, submissives should be provided upon request with the names of those who can vouch for the dominant's credibility.
The dominant may also require other documentation from the submissive, such as letters of petition, fictional narratives of the submissive's fantasies, journal entries (see below), or verification of the submissive's qualifications for specific forms of service, such as a valid driver's license and clean driving record from a prospective chauffeur.
It should be understood that such preliminary interviews, while expressive of a mutual interest in training, do not imply any obligation on the part of the dominant to take on the submissive, nor on the part of the submissive to accept any training program offered.
The Slave Journal
Slaves-in-training should be encouraged to keep a written record of their thoughts, fantasies, and experiences. The journal is usually the property of the submissive but is meant to be read by the dominant. Thus, the dominant may require that the slave address the journal directly to her and that special written forms be followed.
For example, it is common for slaves to use the lower case when referring to themselves and to capitalize all references to the dominant: "Mistress, i am writing this journal as You requested. i hope it meets with Your approval." Or, they may be required to omit the first person pronoun altogether: "this slave is writing a journal as You requested." Some dominants find the use of the possessive in reference to themselves highly offensive, as the Mistress does not belong to the slave.
They feel it is more appropriate for a slave to speak of "the Mistress" than of "my Mistress." Holding to this pattern can result in some interesting linguistic difficulties, but greatly encourages mindfulness. It is to be used at the dominant's discretion. Entries should be made in the journal on a regular basis (anywhere from once a day to once a week has proved useful). The dominant may wish to respond, verbally or in written form, to the entries.
Other Written Training Assignments
In addition to the slave journal, the dominant may assign essays on specific topics of interest, such as the history of erotic servitude or tea service. Book reports on BDSM classics have proved edifying (see appendix A for a selective reading list). The dominant may uncover a hidden talent for verbal expression - a useful and attractive attribute in a slave - that he may want to further encourage. At very least, he will have better insight into the submissive's thoughts and frame of mind.
Physical Preparation
Slaves should be encouraged to care for their bodies so that they will be better able to serve the dominant and so that such service will be more pleasing. Many dominants require that their slaves shave off their body hair, either just the pubic hair, or all of it. The feeling of nakedness and vulnerability this simple