change can produce should not be underestimated. Men often find shaving their body hair humiliating, particularly if they associate shaving with women or femininity.
Reactions like these provide an excellent opportunity to uncover unexamined prejudices that the slave may carry. Prejudices are an unnecessary burden that is best laid aside as quickly as possible.
The slave will need his strength for other, more pressing matters.
The dominant may also require that the slave give herself a cleansing enema or douche as a preparation for service, or the dominant may wish to administer the enema herself. In either case, make sure that the enema is administered properly; with no additives, warmbut not hot water, and low water pressure. Commercial preparations can be used in a pinch, but water is most effective and is unlikely to cause unpleasant reactions. (Some individuals add a small amount of salt to help prevent undue fluid absorption.) Soaps and any form of alcohol should be avoided. The nozzle should be well lubricated with KY Jelly or some other preparation and should be inserted slowly and carefully; as the rectum is quite sensitive. Begin with a small amount of water (a pint or so). Over time, the slave will be able to hold more, although for practical cleanliness, no more than a quart is necessary. The “gallons and gallons" of water referred to in some pornographic literature should remain in the realm of fantasy.
If the slave suffers from hemorrhoids or rectal bleeding. or if these conditions develop at any point during training. she should inform the dominant, who must take great care not to aggravate the condition by requiring too-frequent cleansings. These common conditions can be easily treated by a health care professional.
The slave may also arrange her hair according to the dominant's wishes, use cosmetics (rouging the nipples and vulva, for example), trim or grow her nails, and so on. In all cases, such modifications should be undertaken, not out of vanity; but with the awareness of the dominant's wishes in mind.
Control of the Body
Some dominants take great pleasure in controlling the bodily functions of the slave. As long as such control does no damage to the slaves health, it is acceptable. Sade wrote a notorious passage in which he describes the ideal diet for a slave of a coprophiliac: stewed chicken and rice. While Miss Abernathy does not condone the ingestion of feces, for reasons of hygiene and health, the concept of such intense bodily control is not unpleasant.
It is a sad fact that many submissives, so adept at caring for others, neglect their own well-being. Part of a dominant's task in training such a person is to instill good habits in matters of food, sleep, and exercise, and not to encourage self-destruction. If the dominant notices that the slave is remiss in matters of self-care, she should take steps to remedy the situation. This can be accomplished from within the scene. For example, the dominant may wish to reward the slave for taking care of herself by allowing her to eat the same food as he does, perhaps leaving a little on his plate for the slave to enjoy. (Of course she may be required to eat it without utensils while crouching on the floor.)
The dominant may also control the submissives sleep, speech, and excretory functions, but great care should be taken not to exhaust the slave or endanger his health with such games.
The question of sexual abstinence for submissives frequently arises. Assuming that the slave has turned this right over to the dominant during negotiation, I believe that a dominant may act with impunity in restricting a slave's sexual pleasure. A state of sexual hunger drives slaves to better performance, and the promise of release is a powerful stimulant. If the dominant finds that the slave is unable to resist the temptation to masturbate, he may want to invest in one of the fine chastity belts or "cock cages" now available.
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