back to him. â I look up, fighting the tears prickling my eyelids. âHe humiliated me. If, by some chance, he wants me back, heâd have some major groveling to do. Butâ¦â
âOh, Lord. Here we go.â Terrie lets out an annoyed sigh. Shelby shushes her.
âBut what, honey?â
âYou werenât there,â I say. âYou didnât see Phyllisâs face when she told me that I was the best thing that ever happened to Greg. That I would have been more of an asset to him than he could possibly have understood. Thatâ¦â I take a deep breath, setting up the punch line. âThat women are always the ones who have to fix things, that pride is a commodity we canât afford.â
âThatâs true,â I hear Shelby whisper beside me, although Terrie lets out an outraged, âOh, give me a freaking break. â Her eyes are flashing now, boy, as she leans across the table and buries herself in my gaze.
âGirl, men have been able to get away with the crap they have for thousands of years because women like Phyllis Munson feel they have some sort of duty to perpetuate that myth. Godâit makes me so mad, I could spit.â At this, she gets up, grabs her handbag from the buffet along one wall, rummaging inside it without thinking for the cigarettes that arenât there, since she quit smoking a year ago. So she slams the bag back down onto the buffet and turns back to me, one hand parked on her hip.
âWhat that man did to you isnât forgivable. Or fixable. I mean, come onâhe calls you up and apologizes on the phone? â
Shelby actually laughs. Terrie and I both turn to her. âWell, of course he did,â she says. âHeâs a man.â
âNo kind of man Iâd want hanging around me, thatâs for damn sure. Besides, none of us is ever gonna break these chains of male domination and oppression if we donât change the way we think about whoâs gotta do whatââ
âOh, get off your high horse, Terrie,â Shelby says, a neat little crease between her brows. âWomen are the peacemakers, honey. We always have been. Thatâs a sociological, not to mention biological, fact.â
âAnd I suppose you think that means we have to kowtow to them on every single issue?â
âNo, of course not. But what good does it do for us to back them into a corner, either?â
âMaking them accountable isnât backing them into a corner.â
Shelby goes very still, then says quietly, âSays the woman whoâs had two marriages crumble out from under her.â
Uh-oh.
I stand up, my hands raised. âHey, guys? This is supposed to be all about me, you knowââ
âShut up, Ginger,â they both say, then Terrie says to Shelby, âAnd whatâs that supposed to mean?â
Twin dots of color stain my cousinâs cheeks, but I can tell sheâs not going to back down. âThat Iâve watched you with your boyfriends, your husbands, how every relationship youâve ever had has degenerated into a mental wrestling match. How your obsession with never letting a manâ¦control you, or whatever it is youâre so afraid a manâs going to do to you, has always been more important to you than the relationship itself. No wonder you canât keep a man, Terrieâyou castrate every male who comes close.â
Terrie actually flinches, as if sheâs been slapped. A second later, though, she comes back with, âYou are so full of it.â
âAm I?â is Shelbyâs calm reply. âThen how come Iâm the only one in the room who knows who sheâs going to bed with tonight?â
Holy jeez.
Terrie glares at my cousin for several seconds, then snatches her purse off the chair and heads for the door, throwing âIf you need to talk, Ginge, call meâ over her shoulder before she yanks open the front door, slams it shut