The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women by Tristan Taormino

(to keep fluid inside the pouch) and pull it out slowly and gently. Don’t flush the Reality Female Condom in the toilet—throw it away.

Making Toys Safe
    Transferring a sex toy from an infected person’s orifice directly to another person’s orifice puts you at risk for STD transmission. When it comes to making sex toy play safe, you have a few options. If a toy is porous (made of jelly, rubber, or vinyl), you should either designate it as your own, or, if you want to share it, cover it with a condom and change condoms when you change orifices or partners. If a toy is nonporous (made of silicone, acrylic, glass, or metal), you can either cover it with a condom, or you can disinfect it before using it with another orifice or partner.
    To disinfect a nonporous toy, clean it with hot water and antibacterial soap, or a diluted 10:1 bleach solution; or, if it’s silicone, boil it. Porous toys cannot be disinfected. For more on sex toys, see chapter 8.

Other Safety Precautions
    You should never, ever put anything in the vagina that has been in the anus without thoroughly washing and disinfecting it first. Transferring rectal bacteria into the vagina can lead to yeast infections, urinary tract infections, and other ailments that will put a halt to your pussy’s health and happiness. Just don’t go there. If you or your partner want to use the same finger, cock, or toy in both the vagina and the ass, either use gloves and
condoms, and switch them before you switch orifices or wash whatever it is post-pussy and pre-ass. If a toy is porous, like jelly , rubber, or vinyl, then you need to put a condom on it before it goes in a pussy in order for it to be completely safe after it’s been in someone’s ass.
    ASK THE ANAL ADVISOR: Ejaculating in Her Ass
    Q: My husband and I have been married for six years. Although he has always played with my ass while we were making love, about three weeks ago, he actually put his cock in my ass. We’ve been doing it ever since, and it’s been great! He’s rather large, but we do a lot of warm-up. Generally, we do it doggie-style because I enjoy looking in the mirror and seeing him behind me pumping away. Here’s my dilemma. Dennis always pulls out when he is about to come. This is very disappointing to me, and I would like to have him continue and shoot his juice into me. Would there be any problem with allowing his sperm to get into me that way? Would a fairly good amount of semen in the rectum do anything bad?
     
    A: If you and your husband are monogamous, and both of you have tested negative for HIV and the other STDs, then your husband can come in your ass, and it is relatively low risk for both of you. If, however, you don’t have current negative test results for all these diseases, then either of you could transmit something to the other person through unprotected anal intercourse. This is true whether he comes inside you or not. You said you are married, but since this is the new millennium, I will not automatically assume that you are monogamous—you or your husband may have sex with multiple partners. If that is the case and for other readers out there who may be nonmonogamous, anal penetration without a condom can put both people (and especially the receptive partner) at risk for contracting STDs. The risks increase for the receptive partner if the insertive partner ejaculates, since semen has a high concentration of HIV and many of the STDs mentioned. Since you described his load as “a fairly good amount of semen,” I’ll remind you that what goes in must come out, so the semen may dribble out of your ass (along with all the lube you put in there), but a quick trip to the bathroom should take care of that!

Protecting Yourself
    Get tested for HIV and STDs regularly.
    You’re at higher risk if you have unprotected anal sex with your partners.
    Use condoms, dental dams, gloves, and lubricants for all anal activities.
    Herpes and genital warts may appear not only on but