Kiss Me Like You Mean It by Dr. David Clarke

offers him her body and asks him to drink in her sensual delights.
    Solomon (2:14b)
“Let me see your form,
Let me hear your voice;
For your voice is sweet,
And your form is lovely.”
    As we’ve seen before in looking at this verse, Solomon is praising her physical beauty. He is looking forward to seeing her naked.
    Solomon (4:9)
“You have made my heart beat faster, my sister, my bride;
You have made my heart beat faster with a single glance of your eyes,
With a single strand of your necklace.”
    Solomon tells her, twice, that she sexually excites him like no other woman. She is an absolute babe, and he wants her to know it.
    In 4:12–14, Solomon describes in exquiste detail Shulamith’s beautiful body and their lovemaking. He uses the image of a garden. A “garden” filled with all kinds of sexual delights. Then, he really gets personal.
    Solomon (4:15)
“You are a garden spring,
A well of fresh water,
And streams flowing from Lebanon.”
    Whoa! This is beyond personal. He’s telling Shulamith that she is sexually aroused and prepared for intercourse. No way! Is this in the Bible? Yes!
    Solomon (5:1)
“I have come into my garden, my sister, my bride;
I have gathered my myrrh along with my balsam.
I have eaten my honeycomb and my honey;
I have drunk my wine and my milk . . .”
    Here, Solomon delicately describes their intercourse with the illustration of a feast. Gutsy. And very erotic. When was the last time you had intercourse, and then described to your spouse what happened?
    God is not upset in the least with all this sexual frivolity. He is delighted with their sexual play. That’s why all this flirting and sexual talk is in the Song. Between a husband and a wife, it is not just okay to do it. It’s great to do it.

Dust Off Your Flirting Skills
    Okay, it’s time for you two to get back in the flirting saddle. Start flirting with each other verbally. Start talking in a sensual, romantic, and sexual way. Be spicy! Be a little outrageous. Let your hair down. Let your belt out a notch or two. Make sexual, flirty comments in person, on the phone, by email, in texts, in handwritten notes, and with soap on your bathroom mirror.
    “You look hot in that top, baby!”
    “I’m looking forward to tonight, stud!”
    “You are one sexy chick!”
    “I want you, I need you, I have to have you!”
    I could go on, but I think you get the idea. Unless you had an arranged marriage, you used to flirt with each other. Flirting is what lovers do. So do it.
    Deep down, no man wants a prim, tidy, proper, and straightlaced woman. He wants a flirty, sensuous woman who comes on to him. Deep down, no woman wants an inhibited, prudish, buttoned-down, stick of a man. She wants a man who isn’t afraid to share his romantic and sexual feelings with her. She wants a stud muffin.

The Original and Best
    The Song of Solomon is the original romantic comedy. Because God is the Creative Producer and Director, it’s the best. Solomon and Shulamith show us that to be crazy in love, you must be playful. You have to have fun. You have to act like a couple of kids!
    Love is the greatest , and nothing could be more serious. But the physical and emotional expression of love between lovers is not serious. Love is fun. Love is a blast.
    Some of you are thinking: “Boy, Dave, I don’t know if I can pull off this kind of playfulness.”
    You say: “That’s not me. I wasn’t raised that way.”
    God says: “I know, but try it my way.”
    You say: “That’s not my style. I’m too conservative. I can’t let myself go like that.”
    God says: “I know you are this way, but try it my way.”
    In the Song of Solomon, God is saying: “Here’s how to keep your love fresh and exciting. It worked three thousand years ago, and it will work for you now.”

The Pathetic Little Peck Kiss
    A husband and a wife are living in the same house, apartment, or condo. They’re in love. At least, they’re supposed to be in love. They once were in love.